The four mantras are magic formulas that can
be practiced in dally Iife to help us connect
with others, especially our loved ones.
A mantra has the power to transform the
situation- but it only works if we are really
present and avallable for the other person.The first mantra is "I am here for you." The
greatest gift we can give to others is our true
presence. This establishes real connection. The second mantra is,
"I know you are there,
and I am very happy." To be truly present and
know that the other is also there is a miracle.
When you are really there, you are able to
recognize and appreciate the presence of the
other-the full moon, the magnolia flowers, or
the person you love. The third mantra is, "Darling, I know you suffer."
When you are mindful, you notice when the
person you love suffers. Your presence alone
will relieve a lot of their suffering. The fourth mantra is the most difficult. It is
practiced when you yourself are suffering and
you believe the other person is the one who
has caused your suffering: "I am suffering.
Please help." Many people cannot say this
because of the pride in their heart. In true
love, there is no place for pride. Hearing your
words, the other person will come back to
themselves and look deeply. Then the two
of you will be able to sort things out, let go of
wrong perceptions, and reconcile. 64